Ladies please be honest, can u really do what this woman
Did???
It’s a sad world out there imagine when this happens to you…. Have you ever thought of what you would do if you found your Husband/fiancé/boyfriend, red-handed cheating on you?
Worse still, in your own bedroom? Have you ever thought of what would happen? These things aren’t only read on papers, they are real. They happen to real
women.
Answer this question to yourself sincerely. Would you go for that
kitchen knife, pack your stuff, or hire those thugs that do justice to
other men.
You might be surprised at how you react to this……… Read on
Gals…
A weapon called silence by Mildred Ngesa
I felt it the moment I turned the knob.
The door was unlocked, but that was not unusual especially because his
car was in the parking bay, where it usually parked, when he’s at home.
What I felt was a knot forming in the pit of my stomach – the kind of
feeling you get
When you hear movements in the house when you know you are alone in the
small hours of the night.
Every second Friday of the month, I travel to Kampalato collect Fabric
for my vintage business in the city. On this particular Friday,
I left home at dusk as usual, heading for the city centre to catch the
8 pm Akamba bus bound for Kampala.
We waited for three hours and then it was announced that the buses had
been cancelled due to a technical hitch.
With nothing else to do in town, I went back home. The lights
downstairs were on and so was the music. The English Premier League
was showing on TV, so why wasn’t my husband, a die-hard Arsenal fan,
watching the game?
Sometimes a woman’s instincts can be so sharp that she can smell last
year’s perfume on the shirt of her philandering man. My instincts were
on edge.
Even though there was no actual perfume in the air. In fact, there was
nothing really that I could put my finger on.
Just this odour of violation that ripped my senses like nothing I had
ever felt before.
Perhaps this feeling is what kept me from calling out to my husband.
And it stayed with me even as I tip-toed upstairs, heading for the
master bedroom. Nothing prepares you for anything like this. They had
not even bothered to shut the door. I simply walked in and there they
were, my husband and this woman, naked save for my purple flowered
bed-sheets partly covering their entwined bodies.
It took me a moment to realize the high-pitched cry that cut through
the night was coming from me.
The bewildered pair scrambled to cover their nakedness and stared at me
blankly. They said nothing.
My heart was beating so loud I could almost hear its echo in the next
room.
Trust is a fragile emotion. Like glass breaking, it can be shattered in
an instant, never to be wholly recovered again. In that instant, my
trust for this man was lost.
‘Why don’t I go downstairs and make you some tea?’
Did I just say that? I had just walked in on my husband and another
woman, and all I could do was offer them some tea! I slowly made my way
back downstairs.
In the kitchen, I switched to auto-pilot, fetching a packet of milk
from the fridge, lighting the cooker, placing a pan of water on to boil,
bending to remove mugs and the
flask. All the while, my mind was abuzz, humming a tune I did not
recognize.
This must be how zombies feel. It went on and on; the tune seemed to
imply that I ought to be in control, that I ought to keep breathing so
that I may stay sane.
The tea was ready and placed on the table. Three bright blue mugs sat
neatly on light blue place mats. I waited for the ‘guests’ to come down
as I sat motionless, staring sightlessly at the television.
They came down my husband first, dragging his feet like a prisoner
counting his final steps to the gallows.
He sat on the love seat – the two-seater on which he had cuddled and
kissed me passionately just the night before.
She followed, hesitating for a moment near the same seat before moving
to the furthest corner of the room, near the door, a safe distance from
me.
I began talking as I poured tea into the cups. I rattled on and on
about the transport crisis and the difficulties of travelling at a time
like this.
But instead of reaching for a cup, the woman stood up abruptly and
headed for the door.
For a brief moment, our eyes met. She was not young. In fact, she
appeared quite mature, maybe even married. I heard the gate open.
My husband was still rooted to the spot.
‘Why don’t you see your visitor off?’ I prodded gently. He didn’t
move.
I sighed and started talking about the African Cup of Nations
Championship and how sad it was that Kenyahad lost to Burkina Faso.
When he did not respond, I yawned loudly, said goodnight and went to
bed. Sleep evaded me like the mosquitoes that buzz through out the
night.
My husband did not come to bed with me – he opted for the couch. By the
break of dawn I had painted my mind red with all sorts of possible
revenge, thinking
of the ultimate pain to inflict on him for the anguish he has caused
me. But my heart grew haggard on the prospect of a physical
confrontation.
I was going to fight this war my own way and at my own pace.
Last night marked the beginning of a cold war, not confrontation. I
have heard of, and even seen, women go after ‘the other woman’ with a
panga.
But my reasoning was, this woman was not the only player here. My
husband probably seduced her. Other women go so far as to attack their
husbands, but then again, I thought: If a man is fed up with me, he will
let me know. If he wants to have an affair, that is his business.
Strange, I know, but silence was my weapon – and a very vicious weapon
it was. As far as I was concerned, that was the end of it.
I went about my business as usual and did not say or do anything that
would suggest it had actually happened. Two weeks later, I was waking up
and was surprised to find my husband sitting at the foot of the bed,
sobbing deeply.
‘I am sorry… so sorry. Please forgive me, please, just say something,
don’t shut me out, just say something…’ I looked at him calmly, my
heart frozen.
My face showed feigned surprise and innocence.
‘What are you talking about?
Sorry for what?’ He sobbed even louder, sinking to his knees, his head
buried in his hands. ‘Say something… shout, scream, anything, but
please don’t be silent.
It’s killing me, please, I’ll tell you everything…’ I smiled. It was
the smile of a woman who has just tricked the devil into getting down on
his knees and praying.
It was the smile of a woman who had won.
I had left my peace with God and He will deal with them in Time.
At the end I remained the Lady he had married, and the other women was
just another lesson for me that made me the better person I am today.
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